What if there is a lens through which we filter our reality? How we perceive the world is filtered through our beliefs, our emotions, and our values. EVERYTHING we experience passes through this lens! Those internal lenses works just like a pair of sunglasses to change our experience, which is why we end up with so many different interpretations of the same events. Frequently that lens gets smudged and distorts our view of the world. Just like a pair of glasses it helps to notice that the perception is smudged and to clean the lens! Sometimes those lenses are no longer useful or need to be cleaned or replaced! How are you filtering the world? – www.rhoadscoaching.com
Have you ever put yourself in a situation standing on a ladder or step-stool where over-extending your reach creates a tipping point? Where you have committed more of yourself than is safe? Suddenly the chore you are doing becomes much less important that the injury that could happen.
We are asked to give all of ourselves in what we do.
What happens when we give more?
What happens when I give 110% to my job or relationship (or anything else)? There is a tipping point where we over-extend ourselves and the consequences can be painful. Where are you over-extending in your life? What adjustments can you make to continue to grow and develop without tipping over? – www.rhoadscoaching.com
What coping mechanisms we learned as children are limiting our potential now? The self-protecting behaviors we learned early on about surviving conflict, or soothing a wound, or how to fit into a group all worked… you are still here! These foundational buffers helped us survive as children and because they were developed as children, now inhibit our full potential. Avoiding conflict works in some instances, but not in all. Being a perfectionist drives us to excel, only up to a point. Numbing out buffers us from emotional pain, but can lead to addiction while preventing positive experiences from happening at all. The old tools serve a purpose, but as adults we have the ability to adapt and create more refined responses. We have the ability to choose something different! – www.rhoadscoaching.com
Where do you want to end up? Whether it is planning a vacation, or developing a career path, or creating a lasting relationship, if you do not set a vision of where you want to end up you will likely never get there!
By having a sense of the long term goals for each of the domains in our lives, we automatically create meaning and purpose in what we do on a daily basis. The more that our vision can align with our values and priorities, the more fulfilling the pursuit of that vision will be! Not having a vision, or going away from our vision, creates dissonance and disruption in our lives.
I am excited to announce a new chapter in my coaching practice!
Beginning next week (September 18th), I will have greater flexibility and availability as I step into a full-time coaching! This gives me the opportunity to offer a wider range of workshops and coaching services.
So please take a minute to share this with anyone you know who might be interested in one-on-one coaching, a personal development workshop with a group of friends, or a small business owner who would appreciate help in team building, vision building, or intentional business development.
Watch out for perfectionism! Buying into the ideal of doing something perfectly can be a slippery slope. Aspiring to be better & succeed is a worthy goal & we want to be challenged & grow. But there is always room for improvement & sometimes needing things to be or go perfectly leads to a belief of ‘not good enough’ or even ‘not worth trying’. Self-observation can create an awareness of when the need to be perfect drains our energy & power. Stepping down from needing a perfect outcome creates power & a natural flexibility to living. Wanting things to be perfect can be a trap! – www.rhoadscoaching.com
What if you had the ability to be more confident and powerful in your decisions? How often in your day do you feel forced into choices that create a sense of internal conflict? When do your head, or your heart, or your gut not agree about specific topics? By becoming aware of these different internal centers, you can create the ability to align them into more powerful decisions. Ask yourself – “Why does my head have trouble deciding?” or “What does my heart need in this moment?” or “What do I need to be able to trust my gut?”
By having a sense of congruence, or internal alignment, in these centers we are able to make more confident, authentic choices.
You are built of, and into, many holons. A holon is a nested series of individual units that fit into a bigger independent unit. From sports leagues to interstellar systems, these nested hierarchies help us understand how our universe works! You are part of a bigger picture and plan! How does that add meaning and purpose to what you choose to do? What are the implications to your family, community, nation, and planet if you do not reach to a higher potential and fulfill your purpose in these holons? – www.rhoadscoaching.com