If we teach our athletes to celebrate every touchdown, foul shot, or at bat, why don’t we translate that same philosophy to our relationships and careers? What would it take to celebrate each win during your daily life?
We feel guilty when we are responsible for something that went wrong. A mistake or an accident. We feel shame when we believe there is something wrong with who we are. Our culture struggles to separate the two.
An important observation! You aren’t preparing/training for the beginning of the race! You are preparing for the end of the race, when your skills and talents are worn out!
Maybe that is a subtle distinction. It was enough for a lightbulb to go off in my head this week when it came up in two different conversations. The shift in perception makes a difference.
It doesn’t matter if you are an athlete, unemployed, planning a trip, working on a project (pick a topic), we frequently convince ourselves that we are preparing for the beginning of the event. That’s not true! We are preparing for the second half or the end of the event.
Think about training for a marathon. ANYONE can start a marathon! Even me! My natural strength, skills, and talents will begin to wear out somewhere in the middle of that race. For me it will be way early in the race. The training and preparation is for the END of the race when strength and endurance are wearing out and we have to decide that we want to keep going.
Where is this happening for you in daily life? Some of us are actually training for marathons. But what about a job search? Or trying to find a new car? Or preparing for a tough conversation? What about training a new employee?
My request is to change your perception of training and development. Instead of preparing for the beginning of the race, you are actually preparing for the end of the race. A target that us much more valuable and meaningful! – www.rhoadscoaching.thinkific.com
Remember Dory and Marlin in ‘Finding Nemo’? The instructions were to go through the trench, not around. The trench looked scary and dangerous. It turns out that avoiding the tough spot was more dangerous than going through. How often do you do that in your life? Where are you avoiding it right now?
Recurrence is the repeating of events, thoughts, and emotions in our lives. Life occurs in loops of varying lengths and degree. These loops lull us to sleep. The only way to get out of these patterns is to change how we live. Here are four rules to follow for getting ‘unstuck’!
Given the last year and marking the milestone of 200 Rhoads Life Coaching videos, Persistence seemed like the right topic for today!
First, THANK YOU to everyone who has watched, liked, shared, and followed along over the last few years!! I am so grateful for all of your support, questions, and comments! This would not be possible without your support!
I’ve said it before, I would have laughed at you if you had told me during those first few videos that I would be posting a new topic 200 videos later. I would not have been able to see how that was possible from where I started. Persistence has definitely been a part of this journey. I’m excited to pause for a minute and celebrate!
Thank you to everyone who suggested a location! THANK YOU to Melissa Meyer for suggesting the Purple People Bridge! The topic was already picked before the location was drawn and a windy, rainy day over the Ohio River was fit perfect (even if I had to be persistent in figuring out how to record it)!
Where is your persistence lacking? How do you understand what persistence is in your life? What hill are you climbing that needs a bit more stubbornness and tenacity to keep going? Kind of like creating a 200th video in the rain! Thank you for watching! – www.rhoadscoaching.thinkific.com
Frequently we set a vision or goal without setting intentions. Our intention is who we ARE as we complete a task. It has a great influence on the outcome of how well we engage the world. What is your intention?
Our emotions function like electricity. They are meant to flow. Just like the wires in your house, it helps to have emotional grounds in the outlets and emotional lightning rods on the roof to prevent overloads.
Imagine what your life would be like without electricity. Those currents flowing through practically everything, keep our daily lives moving. Our emotions are the same. Life would be dark and dull without emotional current.
It is possible to overload the system, though, both with electricity and emotions. It might help then to build emotional grounds and lightning rods into your life. We don’t pay much attention to that third prong in the kitchen or bathroom outlet, or the small wire on top of the buildings we go in and out of. They are there to prevent overloads of electricity and they save us from lots of harm all the time.
What does an emotional ground or lightning rod look like then? Maybe you are already doing it to some degree and don’t know it. Those grounding techniques could include: going for a run/walk, calling a friend to vent, writing in a journal, throwing rocks in the river, singing/yelling to loud music in the car, etc. The possibilities are nearly unlimited once you recognize that your emotional system gets supercharged and needs to ground energy in a safe way!
The intent, though, is that you have a mechanism built into your own wiring that is in place and ready to act when a large emotional spike comes down the line. The request then is to be intentional about putting those safeguards in place and to use them when needed. – www.rhoadscoaching.thinkific.com