Internal vs. External – S01 E09

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We each stand at our own doorway. The threshold between the external world we live in and an internal world only you can see. It is impossible to navigate one without the other. The more you can understand your internal world, the easier it is to navigate the external world.

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We All Have To Go Together – S01 E08

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Implicit in our social contract is that if the ‘haves’ get too far ahead of the ‘have-nots’ our contract will collapse. In order to achieve the things we want as a community, culture and society, we all have to go together.

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Introspection – S01 E07

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We have each developed a software code that runs who we are as a person. It addresses all of the internal and external things we experience. Frequently this code needs to be inspected. Is there a glitch? Do you have a bug in your code that needs to be fixed? The only way to find out is use introspection as a tool and look inside to inspect how your insides work.

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Our Social Contract – S01 E06

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Without signing anything, we enter into a social contract with those around us. When that contract is broken a replacement must be found for society to move forward. Given all of the disparity in our culture, protests make sense as a way of resetting that contract. You have a role to play in creating the next contract. How will you play your role?

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Levels of Development – S01 E05

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We have the ability to create higher levels of potential and experience in all aspects of our lives. That higher potential leads to the ability to resolve problems and appreciate more of living. What areas of your life need to develop? How?

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We Are All Connected – S01 E04

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Brene Brown says we are hard-wired for connection. It is part of our purpose to be connected to others and the world. By not connecting to those around us we are not fulfilling our purpose. In our current environment, how are you staying connected?

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Whole Person Growth & Development – S01 E03

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Sometimes we get so focused on the next project, or the current crisis, we lose sight of the big picture, which can make things worse. The key to long term growth and development is a whole person approach to living.

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Parable of the Driver, Horse, & Carriage – S01 E02

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There is an old parable describing being human in relation to a driver, horse, & carriage. We have to have our head, heart, and body present in good working order to be fully human. Which part(s) need to be developed in you?

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What’s Your Favorite Movie? – Rhoads Life Coaching

What’s your favorite movie? Better yet, WHY is it your favorite? The answer says a lot about who you are. It can be used as a mirror to learn more about yourself and to continue to develop who you are becoming.

I’ve written in the past about Owning Your Story and the idea of a Psychological Mirror. The question of your favorite movie combines these two ideas into an introspective look at how you see yourself. Have you taken the time to ask yourself WHY you enjoy your favorite movie so much?

Is it the hero/heroine you resonate with? Do the cast of characters relate to each other in a way that means something to you? Can you see your own story in the plot? Every movie has a conflict. Something happens and the characters must develop in order to overcome obstacles. We see ourselves in their struggles!

So how is this a useful tool for you? By paying attention to what we like and dislike in our favorite movies we understand more about ourselves. This understanding offers an opportunity to do something different in our own lives.

If I can see myself in the character on the screen, then a piece of the character also exists in me. What if you empowered that character inside you to lead you into your next adventure? How would you appear different in the world? – www.rhoadscoaching.thinkific.com

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Casuistry As A Decision Making Tool – Rhoads Life Coaching

I’m a little late to the game. I recently discovered Malcom Gladwell’s podcast, “Revisionist History“. In Season 4 he spends three episodes re-discovering the Jesuit decision making tool of casuistry.

As a methods of moral decision making, casuistry was misused in the 18th and 19th centuries by rationalizing and excusing any behavior. That is not my intent (nor was it Gladwell’s) in bringing it forward today. It was originally developed as a way of seeing the individual and their problems in a novel dilemma.

Casuistry asks for a pause and a drilling down into the details of a problem. It is intended for use in circumstances that haven’t been experienced before. First, stop and investigate the details before applying a broad principle to a decision. It asks for a “decent into the particulars”. Something we don’t do very often in our fast-paced lives.

Most importantly casuistry asks us to listen to the details “free of disordered detachments”; without preconceived biases. What would it take for you to listen in our current environment without bias? Maybe that is part of the problem!

Finally, casuistry looks for previous examples that compare to the current new scenario in order to assist with making a decision. The request is for the decision to take into account the combined information.

My request is to consider using casuistry as a tool. Where are you applying broad principles and skipping over the details? Where are you entering into a conversation with your biases front and center? Given some of the new challenges we face in our families, businesses, and communities right now, it might be worth a try. – www.rhoadscoaching.com

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