Ever find yourself believing you can get more done by packing more into each day? At some point the scale tips and the productivity and fulfillment drop off. It’s kind of like trying to put ten pounds of stuff in an five pound bag.
How are you differentiating the days and weeks so they don’t all run together? Maybe now is the right time to set a marker so you can measure how far you have come and how far you are going to go!
We usually use the New Year as a marker. Out with the old in with the new. In March we will pass the marker of a year of COVID pandemic. If we aren’t paying attention it all starts to blur together and we limit our ability to see that change is still happening around us.
How are you going to keep track of the fact that you are still growing, adapting, and developing? Today is different than yesterday and tomorrow. What relative measurement will work for you to prove that you are still moving forward?
You could celebrate “mini-holidays” for the beginning of each week or month. Keeping a journal or log (and going back and reviewing it) allows you to track your changes. Setting a check-in with a friend or family member allows you to have an outside reference point.
My challenge to you is to create a benchmark for yourself. A metaphorical trail of breadcrumbs. By setting a marker you will be able to prove to yourself that the last 12 months were more valuable than you might believe. You will be setting yourself up to see how much change will happen for you in the next twelve months. How are you going to help yourself?- www.rhoadscoaching.com
Frequently we get so focused on what we must gain in order to change we forget we must also be willing to give something up. What must you let go of in order to grow?
Nearly all of our thoughts and behaviors (good or bad) served a purpose at one point. Some of them prevented bad things from happening to us. Some of those preventative internal blocks got left in place and no longer help, and now hinder growth and change. What internal blocks do you carry around with you that no longer help? Which ones can you remove?
Our culture, whether we know it or not, spends an enormous amount to time and energy celebrating bringing light into the darkness. The hope brought by illumination fulfills something in us as human beings.
There are many layers to the depths of this image. As you celebrate the end of the year, what parts of you will benefit by being illuminated? How will you continue your growth and development as we pass the winter solstice and more light is brought to the darkness?
Because you are able to imagine a version of your future self, you are able to develop a relationship with that future being. If you were to meet, how would the two of you get along? Would you have any advice for each other?
How do you define grace? Is it part of your life? What are you missing by not including it as part of being human?
Several times recently the idea of grace has come up in conversations. I was surprised in looking up the definition all of the different meanings it has. For today, my request is the to focus on the aspect of grace defined as “an act or instance of kindness, courtesy, or clemency“.
The unique thing about grace, though, is that it can’t be earned. If I can’t earn someone’s kindness or clemency, then it must be freely given. Our culture doesn’t take kindly to anything that can’t be earned or traded. Yet there is something very human about grace being freely given.
Is this an idea that exists in your world? For most of us it is easier to consider when thinking about religion or a higher power. Because of this, it also makes it more difficult for it to be part of our daily lives.
What if you were to apply grace as a tool in how you relate to others (and even yourself)? Take some time this season to consider where this unearned kindness does appear and where it might be needed more in your life. How do you define it? How can you develop it in yourself? – www.rhoadscoaching.com
Because you are able to imagine a version of your future self, you are able to develop a relationship with that future being. If you were to meet, how would the two of you get along? Would you have any advice for each other?
We sometimes think of ourselves as one singular person when in fact our personality has many facets and dimensions each with their own needs and wants. We are a multiplicity. How do those facets conflict or complement each other in your life?