Self-Efficacy

Self-efficacy is our personal opinion about our own ability to asses a challenge and find effective ways to cope with an obstacle or difficult situation. It impacts nearly every aspect of our daily lives and is a skill you can develop and grow.

A person with strong self-efficacy views challenges as obstacles to be overcome. They have a confidence that their previous experiences and current skills enable them to face a challenge successfully, even if the solution is not obvious. This mindset reduces stress levels and makes us more resilient to depression. In the last year and a half, our teachers demonstrated a very high level of self-efficacy in teaching through a pandemic.

Someone with a low level of self-efficacy views their own abilities as insufficient and shrinks away and avoids a challenge. This mindset forces us to not try when we are facing daily obstacles. Over time this behavior increases stress and can lead to depression.

Self-efficacy ends up being one of the cornerstones of coaching. It shows up in all of our choices each day. It is also a skill and habit that can be built and developed. You have the ability to change how you face challenges by developing your own self-efficacy!

In what parts of your life are you the most confident? What challenges do you shrink away from? What pieces are you missing to be able to grow your ability to step forward into a challenge instead of shrinking away? How can I help? – www.rhoadscoaching.thinkific.com

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The Befuddled Coachman Podcast – How Bad Do You Want It? – S02 E41

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Some of the goals we set are big! We face lots of challenges. The question comes down to ‘How bad do you want it?’

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The Befuddled Coachman Podcast – Back To Basics – S02 E40

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It is normal for life to get moving so fast that we drift away from the fundamentals of who we are and how we function. It is important to reset and get back to basics of who we are in order to stay on course.

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Re-Entry

Sometimes transitions can feel like re-entry of a spaceship back into the atmosphere! Having the right mindset (of not having complete control) and knowing what to expect helps to make the transition easier!

Whenever I watch a movie about space travel (pick your favorite – Star Trek, Star Wars, Apollo 13, The Right Stuff, etc.), I watch for the scene where a ship re-enters the atmosphere of a planet. There is always a lot of friction! The ride gets bumpy and things heat up A LOT! There are a lot of variables the astronauts can’t control. There are moments they lose communication. It looks stressful!

I imagine we can relate (somewhat) to these scenes as we make transitions back into our daily lives. Anytime I come back from vacation feels like a re-entry back into the atmosphere of work and being home. Starting a new job can be a bumpy ride.

I imagine we are all collectively going to go through a significant re-entry in the next few weeks. What do you have control over? Which things do you NOT have control over? The acceptance that transition will be bumpy and not completely under control allows us to relax a bit. Knowing that our lives might heat up and be stressful as we are out and about in the world again allows for us to keep breathing and not make things worse by trying to control what is beyond our control.

I hope your re-entry goes well! See you out and about! – www.rhoadcoaching.thinkific.com

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The Befuddled Coachman Podcast – Foreboding Joy – S02 E39

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When we are wary of being happy or excited we are practicing foreboding joy. This apprehension trades away the joyful moments of our lives. Where are you fearful of being joyful?

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The Befuddled Coachman Podcast – Introvert vs Extrovert – S02 E38

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How do you define being an introvert vs an extrovert? Is there room for growth and change in your definition?

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Background Apps

Just like your smart phone, what background apps are running in your life? Which ones drain battery power and focus? Which ones can you turn off?

We all have at least one application on our phone that reduces the battery life of the phone, even when we aren’t using it. What application is it on your phone? The location finder? The GPS? For some of us it is a game that keeps tracking even if we aren’t playing. You aren’t able to use the phone to its full potential when these programs are still on in the background.

Have you ever noticed that you are tired or anxious or distracted and can’t figure out why? What if your brain is running background apps just like your phone? You aren’t able to function at your full capacity because something in the back of your brain is draining your energy. We all have some version of this.

The antidote? First, you have to pay attention to what applications are running inside you (especially the ones you are not currently using). The second step is to turn those apps off (some of these may be easier to turn off than others). Set them aside until you need them. If you can’t solve a problem in the current moment, practice setting it aside. Finally, review. Just like your phone it helps to go back on a regular basis to see what is still running in the background. – www.rhoadscoaching.thinkific.com

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The Befuddled Coachman Podcast – Voices In Your Head – S02 E37

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The conversations you have with yourself happen in your head. Those voices in your head weren’t there to begin with. They aren’t who you really are. They can be added and subtracted from the conversation.

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The Befuddled Coachman Podcast – Creating An Intention – S02 E36

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How is setting an intention different than setting a goal? Frequently our goals are short term projects that don’t really change who we are or how we engage the world. Creating an intention offers an opportunity for BEING someone different.

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The Courage To Differ Graciously

In our divisive culture we still get to choose who we are and how we appear. What if you had the courage to differ graciously instead of just arguing and fighting?

I recently found two phrases from Brian McLaren about how to approach differing beliefs inside and between faith systems. This seems to apply to a lot of the differences we are facing in our daily lives as well.

The first is the “courage to differ graciously”. Yes, we have lots of differences. What about your courage though? What would it take for you be be brave and face the differences instead of fighting or running away? Gracious isn’t a word you hear very often. To be filled with grace for yourself and others. To be grateful, patient, and kind, even to those you disagree with. We all need to practice both of these ideas.

The second phrase is “Oh wow, I see that differently.” McLaren offers it as the place to start when you find a big gap in beliefs and opinions. It allows for your voice to be heard in a way that isn’t combative or dismissive of someone else. It creates an opportunity to end the conversation, or ask if the person is interested in telling you more.

My request is this week is to look for opportunities to practice both of these phrases in small ways. By adding them to your toolbox and practicing them, you are creating a space for something to change for yourself and others. – www.rhoadscoaching.thinkific.com

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