By not defining ‘enough’ for ourselves it is possible to fall into the traps of always needing ‘more’ or ‘never enough’. Take some time and define what is ‘enough’ in the different areas of your life.
Here is an interesting twist on the fundamentals of my coaching practice. Usually we frame what we want in terms of goals, vision, priorities or values. Defining what we are doing based on a target or finish line we are aiming for.
Rarely do we ever talk about what is ‘enough’. While we use the word frequently, think for a minute about what it means. It defines upper and lower limits. Either we do not have enough of something and need to add something else, or we have too much of something (you can hear your parent’s voice saying, ‘That’s enough!’).
What if defining ‘enough’ can be used as a tool? In addition to upper and lower limits there is also a time component. What timeframe are you working on? Today? Next week? This year?
By defining ‘enough’ we prevent ourselves from falling into the default trap of always needing more. Our culture uses ‘more’ as the foundation for our thinking and actions whether we are aware of it or not. By understanding where ‘enough’ is for a given topic, we automatically remove the trap of ‘more’ and especially, ‘never enough’.
What aspects of your life could benefit from clarifying for yourself the upper and lower limits? How would goals change if you had a clearer definition? Would pressure and anxiety decrease if you clearly defined your own understanding of ‘enough’? – www.rhoadscoaching.thinkific.com
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