Social Endurance

Just like physical endurance, we also have a social endurance. Social muscles that build & can lose elasticity, strength, & power. We have all lost some of that endurance over the last year & it will take time, effort, & patience to build it back up.

Over the last year we have been limited in terms of where we can go, who we see, & how long we visit new places. Just like not going to the gym for a few months, we have lost some of the strength & endurance that we had a year ago in being able to navigate through social situations.

This could look like being angry or agitated more quickly when we are out in public. It might be feeling exhausted after a short period of time being in a crowd, or even back in the office. Because we are out of social shape, our energy drains very quickly being in social situations that would not have bothered us previously.

Even if you don’t experience this personally, someone you know will be. Those around you are working to build their endurance up again. It will take time. Be patient with yourself & others as we head back out into the world this spring & summer. It is exciting to be out & about! Just remember you (and those around you) are building their endurance back up!

Thank you to the City of Hamilton for funding the murals around town. It has been a lot of fun to film them. Thank you to the Street Spark artists for their amazing creativity! Thank you to you the viewers for your patience with the audio in some of these recent videos. It is challenging recording near busy streets.- www.rhoadscoaching.thinkific.com

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The Befuddled Coachman Podcast – Why I Coach – S02 E21

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Introspective Topics in Under Five Minutes!

One of the questions I haven’t answered is ‘Why I Coach’. It is humbling to watch an individual connect the dots and reach up to a higher level of development and growth!

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The Befuddled Coachman Podcast – What IS Coaching? – S02 E20

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So what IS coaching? Coaching is different from therapy, consulting and advising. Why do you need a coach?

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Keep The Story Going

A detail that needs to be pointed out about the symbol of the Cosmic Egg is that all three stories are NOT finished. Part of our purpose is to keep the story going. What pages of My Story, Our Story, and The Story are you currently writing?

I hope that isn’t a revolutionary idea for you. Hopefully it is also a thought or belief that doesn’t get lost in our daily shuffle of life. My narrative is still being written. Our narrative is still being written. The Narrative is still being written.

Which means that in standing in this spot, you and I have a roll to play. A purpose to be fulfilled. It is our job to keep writing these stories. At all three levels. In fact, each of these levels NEED us to keep writing them!

Ironically, my personal biography, my family’s narrative, my country’s history, and my planet’s tale, my faith’s mythology are all open-ended. They won’t stay that way if I don’t write the next pages and chapters of them.

So where do you see yourself in these layers? What do you understand your role to be? There is a future in front of you that needs to be created, and it won’t happen unless you take responsibility in creating them. What do you want your portion of these stories to say? Don’t wait any longer to start writing! – www.rhoadscoaching.thinkific.com

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The Befuddled Coachman Podcast – Perfectionism – S02 E19

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Watch out! Aspiring to do better, to win, to succeed is a worthy endeavor. We want to challenge ourselves and grow. But wanting things to be perfect can be a trap!

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The Befuddled Coachman Podcast – Numbing – S02 E18

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Introspective Topics in Under Five Minutes!

What if the habits and patterns you are using are numbing you from experiencing meaning and finding your purpose? We have a multitude of ways to numb ourselves to keep from feeling vulnerable. How are you numbing yourself? What are you missing by doing so?

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The Cosmic Egg

We have a tool in the symbol of the Cosmic Egg reaching across time and cultures as a way of understanding our own growth and development through My Story, Our Story, and The Story.

I’ve written in the past about holons, nested systems fitting together into a bigger whole. And I’ve posted about the symbol of the Serpent Mound in Peebles, OH, that ironically has the cosmic egg embedded in it. We are currently plastering brightly colored cosmic eggs all over our houses and grocery stores getting ready to celebrate spring and easter.

There is A LOT of symbolism and history in how we view and create meaning from this idea that we are part of an egg that is hatching out. So try this interpretation as a way of viewing your place in the universe.

The yolk of the egg is Your Story. It is about you and how you understand yourself. Some of us understand that part of the egg really well. Some, not so much.

The white of the egg is Our Story. Our collective story (and many many levels), of being in a family, community, nation, and being human together. Again, some of us really get the identity of being part of a tribe and who is and is not part of that tribe. Others, not so much.

Beyond the shell of this developing embryo is The Story. It is universal. It is the story our religions and belief systems try and describe. We have trouble knowing and understanding it from inside the shell.

You are part of this cosmic egg. Your purpose is to use the My Story and Our Story to grow a human being that can break through that shell and live in all three stories at once. Life is not whole if you aren’t striving to reach beyond the shell and connect all three layers.

Is this a new idea? Could this tool help you in identifying pieces that might be underdeveloped for you? Might it provide some clue to the meaning and purpose you are seeking? – www.rhoadscoaching.com

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The Befuddled Coachman Podcast – The Need To Struggle – S02 E17

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Do you see the value in the need to struggle? We lose perspective in our desire for life to go easy & well. The need to struggle is valuable in life!

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The Befuddled Coachman Podcast – Energy Sink & Energy Well – S02 E16

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An energy sink is a place in your life where you have to use energy to be present. An energy well is the opposite, a please where we are recharged by being there or participating. Where do you have to use energy in your life? Where do you have wells to refuel?

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Paradox (Meaning Between Opposites)

The idea of paradox is the awareness of two opposite ideas that reveal some sense of meaning or truth. Part of being human is the ability to observe paradoxes. As humans we ARE paradoxes. We are each mixtures of good and bad, light and shadow.

You have to spend money to make money.

“Tis better to have loved and lost, than never have loved before.” – Tennyson

If I know one thing, it is that I know nothing.

This is the beginning of the end.

Just like everything else, there are layers of complexity to paradox. From the simplest ideas (Less is more) to mind bending complexity (check here for few samples), they are part of how we understand ourselves.

The truth or meaning coming from these opposite ideas is its own new thing. A third piece that is the precipitate coming from the chemical reaction of two contradicting things. Think about that for a second, you have the ability to create meaning in a new space by comparing contrasting things.

Given all of the polarity and contrast in our world right now, what would happen if you started looking for the truth and meaning between the opposites? The simplest place to start is observing yourself.

Where does paradox appear in your daily life? How will observing it help?- www.rhoadscoaching.com

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